John was a successful 28-year-old software engineer. He explained that he lives his life through the eyes of others instead of his own. He was acutely aware of how other people might perceive him and adjusted his behavior, speech, everything to try to please them. In his life, John had learned to funnel his understanding of […]
Recently, have you felt like you’ve gotten to the end of the day and not even remembered what happened hours before or what you ate for breakfast? Nowadays working from home and seemingly being “available” at all hours of the day has taken a toll on our ability to stay present and focus on our […]
Most of each day we do things out of habit. We don’t even think about it; we just proceed with our regular rituals and routines. What we do each day ends up being what we do with our lives. Therefore, by changing bad habits, we can change our lives. 1. Changing Bad Habits Starts with […]
I absolutely love Well Clinic! From the beginning, my husband and I felt like we were in a comfortable and safe space. Our couple’s therapy bridged gaps in our relationship and helped us understand each other that much more. Ivette B Well Clinic is an oasis, especially for busy professionals like me. It’s a relaxing […]
Economies are opened up – then shut back down. We are all still stuck at home and it can be tough to imagine what comes next. What happens for you as things start to open up again in the world around us? Are you excited about returning to a more active role in society? Are […]
It can cause a lot of distress and anxiety. Gender dysphoria is an incongruence or conflict between the gender an individual was assigned at birth and the gender with which they identify. For those in our communities who experience gender dysphoria, there is likely a strong desire to rid oneself of dysphoria. Some folks may […]
Throughout my years in clinical practice, I have worked countless times with clients facing situations of acute overwhelm. Whether it is a crisis issue, a trauma trigger, or something stressful that just can’t be figured out right now, “thinking” something to resolution seems like a logical route to reduce the pain. This process can demand […]
Whether it’s an intrusive aunt who serves up unsolicited criticism about your cooking or a sibling with different political views; family differences can dampen the joy of the season. But even when we suspect longstanding family tension may percolate, it’s not uncommon to fantasize that the “magic” of the holidays will repair strained relationships. So-called […]
I once joked in a profile that my hobby was “attempting to meditate.” As a physically dynamic person, sitting still and watching my breath and thoughts has always been a struggle. However, in my meditation attempt this morning, I found myself visualizing scrubbing and polishing my internal world; starting at the base of the spine, […]
Accessing transition-related healthcare in this country as a transgender and non-binary person (here-on-out referred to as “trans person”) can be an extremely stressful process. The current political climate and the resulting legislative hurdles compounds the stress and marginalization that trans people experience. In my practice, I often see cisgender allies who are desperate to find […]
When beginning couples therapy, couples often ask for suggestions on books that couples should read together. I want to recommend a few that I often suggest to clients when they come in for couples therapy. The books below are great for couples needing a refresh or for people who are currently single, and want to […]
Did you know that Well Clinic is known in the San Francisco community as a leader in mental health and as a great place to work. At Well Clinic, we take great pride in our contribution to society. Now, we’re proud to announce that Well Clinic has been recognized as a 2019 Best for the […]
I think I must have been the best-prepared new parent on the face of the earth. I took all the preparation classes—some of them twice. But, I never took a parenting course, nor did I think much about what my life would look and feel like when the baby was actually here (beyond wrapping a […]
In the last few years, self-care has cemented itself in the public lexicon, and beyond buying scented candles or luxurious facemasks, it has encouraged us to reflect on our own emotional hygiene. With this shift, I have heard an increased use and occasional misuse of the term “boundaries” in my personal and professional life. A […]